Why We Feel the Way We Do

Ever wonder why sometimes we just feel like we're in a funk? You know, those yekky "day after fun" blahs. We may have had a rip roaring blast the night before and even laughed until we cried and then we just feel the blues the next day. More importantly, perhaps, you're in a relationship with some guy that you REALLY want to keep. You REALLY want him to want you back. And yet you feel these blahs. Perhaps it is because to be with this particular guy you find yourself acting in a way that is contrary to your own personal inner moral code (be it in the humor you use, "how far you go", the places and things you do together, the way you have to act to be around him, etc.)

Are you being yourself around him? You know the person you are proud to be and not ashamed of? Do you find you have to be an imposter around him and pretend you're someone your not just so he'll remain interested?

No matter how hard you try, you just can forget your personal moral code and remain happy. Those morals that are so ingrained inside of you that you can run but you can't hide from...those are the convictions I'm talking about. Our personal moral code comes from our faith--faith and our upbringing. Even if you disagree with those morals NOW, you have to take the time to convince YOURSELF with compelling, conclusive evidence that your new view is correct before you'll have inner peace while breaking that old "rule." Let me give you an example. Perhaps you were raised being told that dancing was a sin and as you grew up you decided that rule was silly, so you began to dance regularly. You still most likely will feel the blahs the day after a "dance all night" party until you have a heart to heart with yourself and really evaluate that belief that "dancing is a sin."

Some of the beliefs of our upbringing are false and just need to be evaluated. Sometimes we don't do things just because previous generations didn't do them with no logic behind the behavior. (Have you heard the story of the young wife who cut off the best end of a roast every time she made one just because her Mom and Grandma did, only to later find that the only reason that ritual began was because the great, great grandmother didn't have a big enough over to fit the roast?) Honestly look to see if perhaps some of your inner convictions are based on illogical rules someone forced on you. If that is the case take the time to deeply look at the reason for the "rule" and then honestly decide if it is a rule to follow or not. Taking the time to free yourself of the old rule can release you to enjoy a new life, maybe even of dancing :-)

HOWEVER, I have to tell you that if you can't justify breaking a moral and still feel good "in the morning" then, wake up, you're dealing with a true, inner conviction that God has put there. Yikes. It's can't be broken AND leave you peaceful and happy the next day. No matter how hard you try to ignore the conviction pangs, somehow, it will come back to zap your joy.

SO, if you want to be happy, you'll have to go back to being true to yourself and your convictions! And that may mean giving up your current guy--you know that hottie your not being yourself around-- so you can be free to find a man that loves you for you and your convictions! But let me encourage you today. Deep inside that is exactly what you want--someone that loves YOU, not an imposter.